Do you find it hard to achieve your desired goals? Do you make your decision to accomplish said goal, but in the long run, don't end up seeing it through? Did you ever stop to wonder why you are struggling to achieve your goals? I'm here to help you with that! Goal coaching is one of my most favorite hobbies. Not only do I love helping people to achieve their goals, I utilize goal coaching in my own life to help me achieve my goals as well. Most of the time, we get really excited about a new goal that we have planned for ourselves- whether it's eating healthier, exercising or starting a business- but then something happens and we end up wondering where we went wrong and why we are still sitting at square one, with our goal still in the distance.
Being able to achieve our goals helps us to live a healthier life, giving us a feeling of accomplishment, pride, and excitement to carry out more goals that we never dreamed possible.
Tip #1 - Readiness for Change & Motivation Go Hand in Hand
Before we start on our goal road map, we must look at our readiness to change. If we aren't feeling confident in our ability to change, we aren't setting a realistic goal for ourselves. For example, if you are wanting to quit smoking, but you aren't ready for that change, you will struggle to quit smoking. So one must ask themselves three questions:
Am I willing to change? (Is this the most important thing in my life? Is this just as important as everything else, or not important at all?)
How confident am I that I can change? (I will definitely achieve my goal, I have a 50% change of achieving my goal, I do not think I will achieve my goal.)
How ready am I? (I am very ready to change, I am almost ready to change, I am not ready to change.)
Another question that one must ask themselves is where is this motivation coming from? Is this goal something that you want or something that someone else wants for you? For example, do you want to quit smoking or is your child asking you to quit? While you may want to make someone proud by accomplishing your goal, it really comes down to how bad you want it. Studies show that when a person has high autonomous motivation they are more likely to have new and positive behaviors that persist longer, they are more flexible and creative, their performances improves, people experience more enjoyment in making changes, and people have better physical health and higher quality personal relationships.
Tip #2 - Create a Vision Statement
A vision is a statement of who you are and what new behaviors you want to do consistently.
You are going to want to look at what's working for you now. What are your strengths? What are your current successes? What makes you thrive? Again revisit what is most important to you right now. What is your motivation?
In your vision statement, you are painting a picture of what your life will look like once you achieve your goal. GET SPECIFIC!
Don't forget to address what major challenges are hurting your confidence to achieve this goal. What are your obstacles?
Explore your strategies. What people, resources, systems, and environments can you utilize to help you realize your vision?
Reflect on your statement and if necessary, create another draft that captures your vision in a way that is meaningful and compelling for you.
Lastly, commit to your goal!
Want to learn more? Join my FREE workshop on how to create a vision statement!
Tip #3 - SMART Goals
Next, make sure that your goal is SMART:
S- Specific- What is it specifically that you want. Example: I want to run a 5k.
M- Measurable- Measurable goals identify when success is attained. Example: I will run in a 5k at the end of summer, giving me 3 months to train.
A- Action-based- What actions are you taking to achieve your goal? Example: I will buy a good pair of running shoes. I will run 3 days a week. I will use a program that will help me to run safely to build up my endurance for running.
R- Realistic- You want to make sure that your goal is realistic. For example, if you are someone who doesn't run, running a 5k without training could be harmful to your body. Taking the time to train first would be a great action step and would help to make this goal realistic.
T- Time-Bound- Having a specific end date in mind keeps you motivated to keep going! Most realistic goals can be achieved in three months and sometimes less!
Tip #4 - Action Steps, Weekly Experiments & Checking In
You've now picked what goals you are ready to work on. You've created your vision statement and created a SMART goal. Now it's time to start creating action steps that you can accomplish each week that will help you to reach your goal.
You will want to create one to three weekly action steps that will help you to reach your end goal. These action steps work just like experiments. You are experimenting with what steps work and what steps do not. So let's take a look at some action steps for running a 5k:
I will wake up at 5am each day that I run.
I will run 3 miles, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday.
I will swim 2 days this week for cross-training.
Now, let's say you are not an early riser. Waking at 5am so that you can go run might not work out in your favor. Perhaps the following week you decide to run in the evening instead.
Maybe running on Saturday, Sunday, and Monday didn't work out because you were too busy, or too sore. So the following week, you space out your running to Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.
You wanted to cross-train, but maybe the pool was closed. Instead you chose to ride your bike or lift weights or take a yoga class.
Maybe NONE of this happened! Maybe you weren't able to do any of your action steps. It's okay! Take the time to evaluate your steps. Make them work for you. If you find that you are still struggling with your action steps after a couple of weeks, perhaps it's time to take a look at your readiness at wanting to run a 5k.
Another important part of achieving your goals is checking-in. How is it going? Are you enjoying what you are doing? Are you struggling? If so, where? Checking in with yourself weekly is a great way to make sure that you really want this goal and to measure how far you've come!
Tip #5 - Celebrate
Last, but not least celebrate your accomplishments! Celebrate when you accomplish your action steps! Celebrate when you've reached a milestone! Celebrate when you've achieved your goal! When you are working toward accomplishing your goals it's so important to recognize how far you've come!
Anyone Can Achieve Their Goals!
Achieving your goals can seem daunting when you aren't sure how to follow through with them. Being able to have the support and tools that you need to reach your goals can make all the difference in the world. If you are finding it hard to achieve your desired goals or are wondering why you are struggling to achieve your goals, reach out! Just click below to schedule a goal coaching session with me.